What does it mean to say "I love you with the love of Christ"?

John 3:16 - For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whoesoever believes in Him shall not parish but have everlasting life.
Eph 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Colossians 3:19 - Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
John 10:15 - As the Father knoweth me, even so know I the Father: and I lay down my life for the sheep.
John 10:30 - I and my Father are one.

These are just a few verses showing the love that Christ and God The Father have for us.  God loved (and still loves) us so much that the only Son He had, He gave for our lives.  The same love is what keeps us from perishing.  Christ's love is the same as God's love.

We're to have this same love for our wives, husbands.  We have such a hard time understanding that it was not about Christ's life but His life was about saving our souls.  He layed down His life for us.  God offered His Son for our souls.  That's pretty deep if you as me.

Now, with that being said....why is it that when someone is a part of our church or just joins the church or even visits, we will say "I love you with the love of Christ"?  Stop lying!

Many of us don't even love our family members like Christ or with His love.  We're not willing to sacrifice ourselves, let alone our only child.  Don't add the abuse the church heaped on Christ on top of all of that.

When we just "throw" out that statement like it's nothing, we're not saying much about the love of Christ.  We need to watch what we say.  If you tell me that you love me with the love of Christ I want to know how you got to that point so quickly.  You're already able to say you'll sacrifice a life for me?  I can't say I would do the same for you.  That kind of love is too deep for me.  I'd do it for my wife and children without hesitation, but, I'm not so sure about anyone else. 

Instead of saying I love you with the love of Christ, how about "I love you enough not to hurt you"?  Let's start with that and see where it goes.

Be blessed.